“Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is.” – Anonymous
After a conversation about getting to know someone new in your life, I’ve thought about it some more and I don’t think it takes quite so long these days. For example, if you meet online, most of the time you know a great deal about someone else before you even meet in person through online chatting and profile details. Of course, you have to hope he or she has been honest in disclosing those personal details. Yes, this does take some due diligence, but isn’t that what dating is all about? It also could take a 100 years to really get to know someone.
I usually find that people who are disappointed in those they forge a relationship with either didn’t ask enough questions or didn’t really listen to the answers. When people tell you about themselves and their behavior—for instance, admitting to having a quick temper—listen!
Many people fail to notice or they simply ignore the red flags, or warning signs. If you see one, it’s supposed to stop you in your tracks. Unfortunately, most of us refuse to stop when it comes to romantic love.
When love has got you in its grasp, no flag or warning from a friend will stop you from going full speed ahead. Even if you suspect that opening your heart may result in getting it broken, you will do it anyway because the lure of love is so powerful.
Thinking that you will change a person once you are in a relationship is, unfortunately, mere fantasy. People do improve, but only if they want to. Relying on someone to come to his or her senses isn’t a good horse to bet on.
You are better off dating longer before committing to each other and one day walking down the aisle. Seeing how someone chooses to grow is rewarding, rather than wishing and hoping, or trying to force someone to make the changes that you desire. If you don’t agree, just ask someone you know who is in the process of a breakup.
Finding the right person to love is something to take very seriously. Relationships don’t just work themselves out; you have to work on them. When you think you have found someone worth sharing the rest of your life with, you should ask every question possible, listen to their answers and communicate with them if any warning signs pop up.
Those who take their time generally end up with better relationships, less chaos, more love to share, and a stronger commitment. This is one of the biggest steps you will ever take together. You need to do everything you can to ensure that you don’t stumble and fall on your journey to true love.